Former BC student charged in boyfriend's suicide releases text messages

Former BC student charged in boyfriend's suicide releases text messages

BOSTON — Boston 25 News has obtained a portion of the text messages shared between a Boston College student and the girlfriend accused in his suicide.

The texts, exchanged between 22-year-old Alexander Urtula and 21-year-old Inyoung You, are from the morning of May 20, the day Urtula jumped from a parking garage to his death. That day, Urtula committed suicide just hours before he was set to walk at his graduation.

On Oct. 29, You was indicted on involuntary manslaughter in Urtula's death.

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Detectives say they determined that You was physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward Urtula during their 18-month relationship. Authorities say the abuse became more frequent, more powerful, and more demeaning in the days and hours leading up to Urtula's death.

"The investigation revealed that Ms. You used manipulative attempts and threats of self-harm to control him. It also found that she was aware of his spiraling depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by her abuse, yet she persisted, continuing to encourage to take his own life," said Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins.

Officials say in the two months prior to Urtula's death, the couple exchanged more than 75,000 text messages, of which You sent more than 47,000.

Amid the tens of thousands of text messages shared by the couple were texts from You saying things like "Go kill yourself," or "Just die."

According to Rollins, You was controlling to the point where she would track Urtula's location through his cellphone to find him.

An executive with Rasky PR, a firm hired by Inyoung You's defense and now working on her behalf, confirms the texts to Boston 25 News.

Sources tell Boston 25 News You has agreed to waive extradition and voluntarily return to the U.S.

Read some of the texts below:

INYOUNG YOU

excuse me why is ur location not available

what are u doing

where the [expletive] are you

are you kidding

really? you really turned your location off

you were being sus as [expletive] when u left i knew u were gonna go [expletive] see them

u thought u were being sly about it

u think I'm that DUMB?

u turn ur location off at a time where it's not even POSSIBLE that u made it to the parking lot then

so I wonder where you [expletive] WENT

who'd you run into or talk to? whose room did u go to?

hello

just [expletive] own up to it like u said u would yesterday

 
 

ALEXANDER URTULA

I'm not talking to anyone. I won't ever again. I'm happy I got to spend my last night with you. I love you inyoung until my last breath.

INYOUNG YOU

then WHERE ARE YOU.

YOU DON'T REAPOND TO ANTHINF

I ASKED U WHY UR LOCATIONCWASNT AVAILABLE

ARE U KIDDING ME

that's all you [expletive] say?

 
 

ALEXANDER URTULA

I'm not gonna be anywhere inyoung this is goodbye forever. I love you. This isn't your fault it's mine.

INYOUNG YOU

what

whAT

UR LEAVING ME

 
 

ALEXANDER URTULA

I'm far away on a tall place and I'm not gonna be here for long

I'm leaving everyone

INYOUNG YOU

ALEX

WHAT SRE YOU [expletive] DOING.

IF U [expletive] LOVE ME STOP

IF U EVER [expletive] LOVED ME STOP

 
 

ALEXANDER URTULA

I did love you just not well enough

INYOUNG YOU

UR GONNA [expletive] LEAVE ME TO NOTHING

 
 

ALEXANDER URTULA

Good bye

INYOUNG YOU

STOP

 
 

ALEXANDER URTULA

You'll have everything once I'm gone

INYOUNG YOU

PLWASE STOp

talk to me

STOP

STOP

PLESEE

IM CRYING PLEASE

PICK UP

PLEASE

JUST OICK UP

DON'T LEAVE ME LIKE THAT

IF U EVER LOVED ME STOP

IF YOU WANNA SHOW ME U LOVE ME STOP

STIP

STOP

please pick up

talk to me please

WHY DO U NEVER TALK TO ME

STOP

what ARE YOU DOING

PLEASE

STOP

I [expletive] LOVE U U CANT LEAVE ME LIKE THIS

alex

alex

please

alex i love you please

please I'm sorry

i'm so sorry please

plesee

TALK TO ME I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME

I THOUGHT U [expletive] LOVED ME PLEASE

WHY ARE U LDING THIS

PLEASE

please talk to me

plesee I'll come

please

DID U [expletive] BLOCK ME

PLEASE

please alex

alex

PLEASE

i love you so much please

please listen to me please

please

listen to me please

I LOVE YOU ALEX

IM NOT GONNA LOVE ANYBODU ELSE

PLEASE

PLEASE

please baby

i love you so much

please stop please

please baby please stop i love you

i love you so [expletive] much i'm so sorry please

please be with me and love me forever please plesee please

i love you so much please

please baby please pick up

I LOVE YOU PLEASE PICK UP

PLEASE

IM VEGGING YOU I [expletive] LOVE YOU

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

I LOVE YOU AND ONLY UOU PLEASE PLEASE ALEX PLEASE

IM BEGGING YOU

PLEASE

please baby please

i'm begging you please i [expletive] LOVE YOU

please why can't we have our forever and always

please

please

please i need you

please

i need you so much please

i [expletive] love you like no [expletive] other please i'm so sorry

i'm so sorry if i hurt you PLEASE

PLEASE BE WITH ME MY LOVE PLEASE

[expletive] LOVE ME AND BE WITH ME O [expletive] LOVE YOU

PLEASE

please I'm so sorry i'm begging you please alex please

can you wait for 20 minutes please

PLEASE

DONT DO THIS PLEASE

IM BEGGING YOU PLEASE

I CANT LIVD WITHOUT YOU

PLEASE [expletive] DON'T DO THIS

PLEASE ALWX

DON'T DO THIS

I LOVE YOU BABY PLEASE

please baby please

[expletive]

please

please please

i love you so much please

don't do this please

please

i'm begging you please

baby please please please

baby PLEASE

I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEAse don't do this please talk to me

please baby i'm almost there please

please don't push me away PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME PLEASE

please don't leave me baby please

please PLEASE PLEASE

I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEASE

IM ALMOST HERE PLEASE

PLESSE SEE ME ANS TALK TO ME PLEASE

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

please baby please

i'm begging you with MY ENTIRE [expletive] LIFE PLEASE

DON'T [expletive] KEAVE ME PLEASE

I LOVE YOU

I LOVE YOU

I LOVE YOU

I [expletive] LOVD YOU

i [expletive] love you please please [expletive] PLEASE ALWX

IM BEGGING YOU

PLEASE IM ALMOST THERE PLEASE

where are u please please please

 

Upon the release of the text messages, Matthew Brelis, the Director of Communications for the Suffolk County DA said, in a statement:

"This office will not comment further on the investigation at this point, or on the evidence that supported our charging decision. More facts and evidence will be made available at the arraignment and throughout the course of the litigation. Until that point, we have no further comment."

The case is reminiscent of that of Michelle Carter, the Massachusetts woman who was sentenced to 15 months in jail after she was convicted in 2017 of involuntary manslaughter for using text messages and phone calls to encourage her boyfriend, Conrad Roy, him to kill himself in 2014.

Rollins acknowledged similarities between You's case and Carter's case but said there were significant differences as well, such as the complete control You had over Urtula.

Carter's lawyers maintained her texts were constitutionally protected free speech. Her conviction was upheld by the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, but has been appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court, which hasn't yet decided whether it will take up the case.