BOSTON — Boston 25 News has obtained a portion of the text messages shared between a Boston College student and the girlfriend accused in his suicide.
The texts, exchanged between 22-year-old Alexander Urtula and 21-year-old Inyoung You, are from the morning of May 20, the day Urtula jumped from a parking garage to his death. That day, Urtula committed suicide just hours before he was set to walk at his graduation.
On Oct. 29, You was indicted on involuntary manslaughter in Urtula's death.
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Detectives say they determined that You was physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward Urtula during their 18-month relationship. Authorities say the abuse became more frequent, more powerful, and more demeaning in the days and hours leading up to Urtula's death.
"The investigation revealed that Ms. You used manipulative attempts and threats of self-harm to control him. It also found that she was aware of his spiraling depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by her abuse, yet she persisted, continuing to encourage to take his own life," said Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins.
Officials say in the two months prior to Urtula's death, the couple exchanged more than 75,000 text messages, of which You sent more than 47,000.
Amid the tens of thousands of text messages shared by the couple were texts from You saying things like "Go kill yourself," or "Just die."
According to Rollins, You was controlling to the point where she would track Urtula's location through his cellphone to find him.
An executive with Rasky PR, a firm hired by Inyoung You's defense and now working on her behalf, confirms the texts to Boston 25 News.
Sources tell Boston 25 News You has agreed to waive extradition and voluntarily return to the U.S.
Read some of the texts below:
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INYOUNG YOU excuse me why is ur location not available what are u doing where the [expletive] are you are you kidding really? you really turned your location off you were being sus as [expletive] when u left i knew u were gonna go [expletive] see them u thought u were being sly about it u think I'm that DUMB? u turn ur location off at a time where it's not even POSSIBLE that u made it to the parking lot then so I wonder where you [expletive] WENT who'd you run into or talk to? whose room did u go to? hello just [expletive] own up to it like u said u would yesterday |
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ALEXANDER URTULA I'm not talking to anyone. I won't ever again. I'm happy I got to spend my last night with you. I love you inyoung until my last breath. |
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INYOUNG YOU then WHERE ARE YOU. YOU DON'T REAPOND TO ANTHINF I ASKED U WHY UR LOCATIONCWASNT AVAILABLE ARE U KIDDING ME that's all you [expletive] say? |
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ALEXANDER URTULA I'm not gonna be anywhere inyoung this is goodbye forever. I love you. This isn't your fault it's mine. |
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INYOUNG YOU what whAT UR LEAVING ME |
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ALEXANDER URTULA I'm far away on a tall place and I'm not gonna be here for long I'm leaving everyone |
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INYOUNG YOU ALEX WHAT SRE YOU [expletive] DOING. IF U [expletive] LOVE ME STOP IF U EVER [expletive] LOVED ME STOP |
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ALEXANDER URTULA I did love you just not well enough |
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INYOUNG YOU UR GONNA [expletive] LEAVE ME TO NOTHING |
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ALEXANDER URTULA Good bye |
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INYOUNG YOU STOP |
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ALEXANDER URTULA You'll have everything once I'm gone |
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INYOUNG YOU PLWASE STOp talk to me STOP STOP PLESEE IM CRYING PLEASE PICK UP PLEASE JUST OICK UP DON'T LEAVE ME LIKE THAT IF U EVER LOVED ME STOP IF YOU WANNA SHOW ME U LOVE ME STOP STIP STOP please pick up talk to me please WHY DO U NEVER TALK TO ME STOP what ARE YOU DOING PLEASE STOP I [expletive] LOVE U U CANT LEAVE ME LIKE THIS alex alex please alex i love you please please I'm sorry i'm so sorry please plesee TALK TO ME I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME I THOUGHT U [expletive] LOVED ME PLEASE WHY ARE U LDING THIS PLEASE please talk to me plesee I'll come please DID U [expletive] BLOCK ME PLEASE please alex alex PLEASE i love you so much please please listen to me please please listen to me please I LOVE YOU ALEX IM NOT GONNA LOVE ANYBODU ELSE PLEASE PLEASE please baby i love you so much please stop please please baby please stop i love you i love you so [expletive] much i'm so sorry please please be with me and love me forever please plesee please i love you so much please please baby please pick up I LOVE YOU PLEASE PICK UP PLEASE IM VEGGING YOU I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE I LOVE YOU AND ONLY UOU PLEASE PLEASE ALEX PLEASE IM BEGGING YOU PLEASE please baby please i'm begging you please i [expletive] LOVE YOU please why can't we have our forever and always please please please i need you please i need you so much please i [expletive] love you like no [expletive] other please i'm so sorry i'm so sorry if i hurt you PLEASE PLEASE BE WITH ME MY LOVE PLEASE [expletive] LOVE ME AND BE WITH ME O [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEASE please I'm so sorry i'm begging you please alex please can you wait for 20 minutes please PLEASE DONT DO THIS PLEASE IM BEGGING YOU PLEASE I CANT LIVD WITHOUT YOU PLEASE [expletive] DON'T DO THIS PLEASE ALWX DON'T DO THIS I LOVE YOU BABY PLEASE please baby please [expletive] please please please i love you so much please don't do this please please i'm begging you please baby please please please baby PLEASE I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEAse don't do this please talk to me please baby i'm almost there please please don't push me away PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME PLEASE please don't leave me baby please please PLEASE PLEASE I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEASE IM ALMOST HERE PLEASE PLESSE SEE ME ANS TALK TO ME PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE please baby please i'm begging you with MY ENTIRE [expletive] LIFE PLEASE DON'T [expletive] KEAVE ME PLEASE I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU I LOVE YOU I [expletive] LOVD YOU i [expletive] love you please please [expletive] PLEASE ALWX IM BEGGING YOU PLEASE IM ALMOST THERE PLEASE where are u please please please |
Upon the release of the text messages, Matthew Brelis, the Director of Communications for the Suffolk County DA said, in a statement:
"This office will not comment further on the investigation at this point, or on the evidence that supported our charging decision. More facts and evidence will be made available at the arraignment and throughout the course of the litigation. Until that point, we have no further comment."
The case is reminiscent of that of Michelle Carter, the Massachusetts woman who was sentenced to 15 months in jail after she was convicted in 2017 of involuntary manslaughter for using text messages and phone calls to encourage her boyfriend, Conrad Roy, him to kill himself in 2014.
Rollins acknowledged similarities between You's case and Carter's case but said there were significant differences as well, such as the complete control You had over Urtula.
Carter's lawyers maintained her texts were constitutionally protected free speech. Her conviction was upheld by the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, but has been appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court, which hasn't yet decided whether it will take up the case.
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