• Former BC student charged in boyfriend's suicide releases text messages

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    BOSTON - Boston 25 News has obtained a portion of the text messages shared between a Boston College student and the girlfriend accused in his suicide.

    The texts, exchanged between 22-year-old Alexander Urtula and 21-year-old Inyoung You, are from the morning of May 20, the day Urtula jumped from a parking garage to his death. That day, Urtula committed suicide just hours before he was set to walk at his graduation.

    On Oct. 29, You was indicted on involuntary manslaughter in Urtula's death.

    >> Former BC student indicted on involuntary manslaughter in boyfriend's suicide

    Detectives say they determined that You was physically, verbally and psychologically abusive toward Urtula during their 18-month relationship. Authorities say the abuse became more frequent, more powerful, and more demeaning in the days and hours leading up to Urtula's death.

    "The investigation revealed that Ms. You used manipulative attempts and threats of self-harm to control him. It also found that she was aware of his spiraling depression and suicidal thoughts brought on by her abuse, yet she persisted, continuing to encourage to take his own life," said Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins.

    Officials say in the two months prior to Urtula's death, the couple exchanged more than 75,000 text messages, of which You sent more than 47,000.

    Amid the tens of thousands of text messages shared by the couple were texts from You saying things like "Go kill yourself," or "Just die."

    According to Rollins, You was controlling to the point where she would track Urtula's location through his cellphone to find him.

    An executive with Rasky PR, a firm hired by Inyoung You's defense and now working on her behalf, confirms the texts to Boston 25 News.

    Sources tell Boston 25 News You has agreed to waive extradition and voluntarily return to the U.S.

    Read some of the texts below: 

    INYOUNG YOU

    excuse me why is ur location not available

    what are u doing

    where the [expletive] are you

    are you kidding

    really? you really turned your location off

    you were being sus as [expletive] when u left i knew u were gonna go [expletive] see them

    u thought u were being sly about it

    u think I'm that DUMB?

    u turn ur location off at a time where it's not even POSSIBLE that u made it to the parking lot then

    so I wonder where you [expletive] WENT

    who'd you run into or talk to? whose room did u go to?

    hello

    just [expletive] own up to it like u said u would yesterday

     
     

    ALEXANDER URTULA

    I'm not talking to anyone. I won't ever again. I'm happy I got to spend my last night with you. I love you inyoung until my last breath.

    INYOUNG YOU

    then WHERE ARE YOU.

    YOU DON'T REAPOND TO ANTHINF

    I ASKED U WHY UR LOCATIONCWASNT AVAILABLE

    ARE U KIDDING ME

    that's all you [expletive] say?

     
     

    ALEXANDER URTULA

    I'm not gonna be anywhere inyoung this is goodbye forever. I love you. This isn't your fault it's mine.

    INYOUNG YOU

    what

    whAT

    UR LEAVING ME

     
     

    ALEXANDER URTULA

    I'm far away on a tall place and I'm not gonna be here for long

    I'm leaving everyone

    INYOUNG YOU

    ALEX

    WHAT SRE YOU [expletive] DOING.

    IF U [expletive] LOVE ME STOP

    IF U EVER [expletive] LOVED ME STOP

     
     

    ALEXANDER URTULA

    I did love you just not well enough

    INYOUNG YOU

    UR GONNA [expletive] LEAVE ME TO NOTHING

     
     

    ALEXANDER URTULA

    Good bye

    INYOUNG YOU

    STOP

     
     

    ALEXANDER URTULA

    You'll have everything once I'm gone

    INYOUNG YOU

    PLWASE STOp

    talk to me

    STOP

    STOP

    PLESEE

    IM CRYING PLEASE

    PICK UP

    PLEASE

    JUST OICK UP

    DON'T LEAVE ME LIKE THAT

    IF U EVER LOVED ME STOP

    IF YOU WANNA SHOW ME U LOVE ME STOP

    STIP

    STOP

    please pick up

    talk to me please

    WHY DO U NEVER TALK TO ME

    STOP

    what ARE YOU DOING

    PLEASE

    STOP

    I [expletive] LOVE U U CANT LEAVE ME LIKE THIS

    alex

    alex

    please

    alex i love you please

    please I'm sorry

    i'm so sorry please

    plesee

    TALK TO ME I THOUGHT YOU LOVED ME

    I THOUGHT U [expletive] LOVED ME PLEASE

    WHY ARE U LDING THIS

    PLEASE

    please talk to me

    plesee I'll come

    please

    DID U [expletive] BLOCK ME

    PLEASE

    please alex

    alex

    PLEASE

    i love you so much please

    please listen to me please

    please

    listen to me please

    I LOVE YOU ALEX

    IM NOT GONNA LOVE ANYBODU ELSE

    PLEASE

    PLEASE

    please baby

    i love you so much

    please stop please

    please baby please stop i love you

    i love you so [expletive] much i'm so sorry please

    please be with me and love me forever please plesee please

    i love you so much please

    please baby please pick up

    I LOVE YOU PLEASE PICK UP

    PLEASE

    IM VEGGING YOU I [expletive] LOVE YOU

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

    I LOVE YOU AND ONLY UOU PLEASE PLEASE ALEX PLEASE

    IM BEGGING YOU

    PLEASE

    please baby please

    i'm begging you please i [expletive] LOVE YOU

    please why can't we have our forever and always

    please

    please

    please i need you

    please

    i need you so much please

    i [expletive] love you like no [expletive] other please i'm so sorry

    i'm so sorry if i hurt you PLEASE

    PLEASE BE WITH ME MY LOVE PLEASE

    [expletive] LOVE ME AND BE WITH ME O [expletive] LOVE YOU

    PLEASE

    please I'm so sorry i'm begging you please alex please

    can you wait for 20 minutes please

    PLEASE

    DONT DO THIS PLEASE

    IM BEGGING YOU PLEASE

    I CANT LIVD WITHOUT YOU

    PLEASE [expletive] DON'T DO THIS

    PLEASE ALWX

    DON'T DO THIS

    I LOVE YOU BABY PLEASE

    please baby please

    [expletive]

    please

    please please

    i love you so much please

    don't do this please

    please

    i'm begging you please

    baby please please please

    baby PLEASE

    I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEAse don't do this please talk to me

    please baby i'm almost there please

    please don't push me away PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME PLEASE

    please don't leave me baby please

    please PLEASE PLEASE

    I [expletive] LOVE YOU PLEASE

    IM ALMOST HERE PLEASE

    PLESSE SEE ME ANS TALK TO ME PLEASE

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

    please baby please

    i'm begging you with MY ENTIRE [expletive] LIFE PLEASE

    DON'T [expletive] KEAVE ME PLEASE

    I LOVE YOU

    I LOVE YOU

    I LOVE YOU

    I [expletive] LOVD YOU

    i [expletive] love you please please [expletive] PLEASE ALWX

    IM BEGGING YOU

    PLEASE IM ALMOST THERE PLEASE

    where are u please please please

     

    Upon the release of the text messages, Matthew Brelis, the Director of Communications for the Suffolk County DA said, in a statement:

    "This office will not comment further on the investigation at this point, or on the evidence that supported our charging decision. More facts and evidence will be made available at the arraignment and throughout the course of the litigation. Until that point, we have no further comment."

    The case is reminiscent of that of Michelle Carter, the Massachusetts woman who was sentenced to 15 months in jail after she was convicted in 2017 of involuntary manslaughter for using text messages and phone calls to encourage her boyfriend, Conrad Roy, him to kill himself in 2014.

    Rollins acknowledged similarities between You's case and Carter's case but said there were significant differences as well, such as the complete control You had over Urtula.

    Carter's lawyers maintained her texts were constitutionally protected free speech. Her conviction was upheld by the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court, but has been appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court, which hasn't yet decided whether it will take up the case.

    >> All the texts between Michelle Carter and Conrad Roy the day he died

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